Success and what matters

“Succeed.” v.
1. to come after another, or to inherit
2. to turn out well
3. to attain a desired object or end

I rarely meet people who are abject and utter failures: that is, they were unable to attain any desired object or end.

People generally succeed in what matters most to them, by determining what must be done and paying the price.
“What matters most” to them is revealed by what people succeed in doing.
“To attain a desired object or end” is measured in the context of the person doing the attaining. “To turn out well” is measured in the opinion of others and God.
Unfortunately, “to attain a desired object or end” that matters to someone is not always the same as “to turn out well.”
Charity may involve my giving up my desired ends so that I might actually turn out well.