We cannot control all of the things that happen to us. All the petty annoyances, wounds, insults, challenges, and barriers.The real struggle is to control our outlook and attitude. To say, when bad things happen, “this is not the end. This will not destroy me. This will not prevent me from making things better.” This struggle is not easy. Often it is not the experience that destroys us, but our reaction to it. It wasn’t the bullet that killed most in some of our biggest wars–it was infection and disease. And poor attitudes are very much a seeping infection. They can paralyze us, lead us to terrible decisions, and seep from us to others. Mind the HALT acronym–hungry, angry, lonely, tired. When multiple things are piling up across the categories, the danger of the greater struggle is near.